what if I had stayed with an ex gf....

[DonMK]

I'm having one of those times last few days. Wondering what if I had stayed with an ex from 5 years ago. You ever have these thoughts?

[HeidiHoe]

There's a reason that you didn't. Leave it at that and look forward. Every time that you retrieve old memories your brain builds new neuro pathways and your recollection of past events changes accordingly. She may not have been the match that you now think she was. Chalk her off as a learning experience and see what's around the next corner instead.

[DonMK]

But I miss her heidiHoe, if only I had not cheated on her and been outed.

[bill]

There's a reason that you didn't. Leave it at that and look forward. Every time that you retrieve old memories your brain builds new neuro pathways and your recollection of past events changes accordingly. She may not have been the match that you now think she was. Chalk her off as a learning experience and see what's around the next corner instead.

great advice for everyone

[bill]

But I miss her

these links to articles might be helpful:


https://www.google.com/search?source=hp ... BS6HfVeWFo

[bill]

just 100x your efforts and affections to your current girlfriend

[nudelinks]

I'm having one of those times last few days. Wondering what if I had stayed with an ex from 5 years ago. You ever have these thoughts?

Time for a new girlfriend

[HeidiHoe]

But I miss her heidiHoe, if only I had not cheated on her and been outed.

You can't change the past. All you can do is learn from it and move forward.
Here is another way to look at it:
Something in the relationship was missing leading you to cheat. She dumped you once she discovered that you are not perfect. Instead of caring enough to start an honest dialog and working on improving the relationship she dropped you like a hot potato. Now ask yourself does she strike you like the type of person that will have your back when you need her or will she cut and run when things get tough? Now quit crying in your beer and start looking forward. Open your eyes to what can be instead of what was.

[TheButcher]

But I miss her heidiHoe, if only I had not cheated on her and been outed.

You can't change the past. All you can do is learn from it and move forward.
Here is another way to look at it:
Something in the relationship was missing leading you to cheat. She dumped you once she discovered that you are not perfect. Instead of caring enough to start an honest dialog and working on improving the relationship she dropped you like a hot potato. Now ask yourself does she strike you like the type of person that will have your back when you need her or will she cut and run when things get tough? Now quit crying in your beer and start looking forward. Open your eyes to what can be instead of what was.

Excellent words of advice and the 2 sentences I highlighted got me, we can not change the past we have to learn from it and try not make the same mistakes again. I've been married one time and for a long time, I was not a very responsible boyfriend when dating before I got married. I made a commitment to my wife and stuck to it. I had a problem finding my way back home and ended up with other women to be honest. But that was before I proposed to my wife and stuck with it. No relationship is perfect but that is not the issue, you have to talk and work things out if you care about the person you're with.

My 2 cents.

[pornmafia]

I'm having one of those times last few days. Wondering what if I had stayed with an ex from 5 years ago. You ever have these thoughts?

You might have depression, see a doctor.

[killah]

What if my grand father was a woman and he was my grand mother, stop dwelling on "What if"

[Russ]

I'm having one of those times last few days. Wondering what if I had stayed with an ex from 5 years ago. You ever have these thoughts?

Been there myself once, it's okay to look at what might have turned out but time to look forward now.

[chilli.domains]

Keep the past where it belongs build a future relationship. You'll go mad thinking about what if I had said this or done that with her.