Want to help out an ex-girlfriend dilemma without losing my existing woman

[fantastico]

Hope it all goes well for you

[Wm2man]

You either do what you have to do not say a word to your current gf or nothing, you open your mouth to her you are fucked.

[drPorn]

You either do what you have to do not say a word to your current gf or nothing, you open your mouth to her you are fucked.

What I would do and pray she never finds out.

[urbanlegend]

I'll predict how this is going to end. You'll end up telling the woman in your life or she will find out, you'll get involved with the X and then break up once she gets her life sorted out.

[TheButcher]

I'll predict how this is going to end. You'll end up telling the woman in your life or she will find out, you'll get involved with the X and then break up once she gets her life sorted out.

The first part I can see happening, getting back with the former girlfriend for any meaningful length of time I am not sure.

[vblogger]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

I buy the story and you seem a decent person, just tell your girlfriend and if she can not buy it for what it is then she is not for you.

[ricco]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

Now tell us what is really in the back of your mind

[Sandman]

Your fucked no gf will accept this

[drPorn]

Your fucked no gf will accept this

If you find one tell me

[TheButcher]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

Any news of this situation brotha?

[NSWDave]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

Any news of this situation brotha?

I rented a one bedroom for her, taking care of the rent and expenses. I have not laid a finger on her or got in anyway romantic together. I have told her I will take care of her until she gets her thoughts together and finds a decent job and I meant it and mean it. No I have not said a word to my lady and that's how I intend to keep it. She will flip out and walk out on me because she will never understand what it is I am doing. I do not blame her if she jumps to the wrong conclusion but why give her the chance to go there.It is complicated I can see how it appears form the outside but I do not care, I am not cheating on my girlfriend, I am not hurting anyone except being the man I should have been to my ex in the first place.

[jag]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

Any news of this situation brotha?

I rented a one bedroom for her, taking care of the rent and expenses. I have not laid a finger on her or got in anyway romantic together. I have told her I will take care of her until she gets her thoughts together and finds a decent job and I meant it and mean it. No I have not said a word to my lady and that's how I intend to keep it. She will flip out and walk out on me because she will never understand what it is I am doing. I do not blame her if she jumps to the wrong conclusion but why give her the chance to go there.It is complicated I can see how it appears form the outside but I do not care, I am not cheating on my girlfriend, I am not hurting anyone except being the man I should have been to my ex in the first place.

You sure this is the best way to handle things, come clean tell your girlfriend , things are getting too complicated now as it is hon.

[TheButcher]

Any news of this situation brotha?

I rented a one bedroom for her, taking care of the rent and expenses. I have not laid a finger on her or got in anyway romantic together. I have told her I will take care of her until she gets her thoughts together and finds a decent job and I meant it and mean it. No I have not said a word to my lady and that's how I intend to keep it. She will flip out and walk out on me because she will never understand what it is I am doing. I do not blame her if she jumps to the wrong conclusion but why give her the chance to go there.It is complicated I can see how it appears form the outside but I do not care, I am not cheating on my girlfriend, I am not hurting anyone except being the man I should have been to my ex in the first place.

You sure this is the best way to handle things, come clean tell your girlfriend , things are getting too complicated now as it is hon.

You think?
I doubt she'll accept or understand it even now after what he has kept from her and done for his former girlfriend.

[Hosting Fred]

Oh boy how long before the OP starts a new thread. My girlfriend left me.

OP cheating is not only sleeping with another woman, it's breaking the trust and respect you should have with your girlfriend Turn the tables see what you would say if you found out everything you have done so far.

[ispdn]

In a pickle and trying to sort it out in my mind before I lose my current girlfriend. Yesterday I was at lunch with a co-worker from my past job, we were eating and I saw this gal who reminded me of a girlfriend I used to have in 2015. I didn't make much of her as she was a few tables away cleaning up after some patrons had left.I do not believe in the idea we all have a double out there so I went back today and got a beer and a sub, then I saw this same woman working there. So I walked up to her and it was Julie.
She started to walk away I said hold on I just want to say hi please stay. She said get lost you cheated on me I want nothing to do with you. So I said listen give me 2 minutes of your time, she said what do you want.

So I asked her how she was doing and she said what do you think, she had dropped out of college, went through 2 years of depression when I cheated on her when we were engaged. So now she is working at this place cleaning up tables and floors. I might have cheated on her but deep down I regretted it at the time.

I told her go get your handbag or whatever else you have we are going for a walk, she said she can't the boss will fire her, I said let's go talk to him. I go there 2 times a week so I know the owner. I told Mike I am taking Julie and she is not coming back to work.He started telling me no way I said listen, I am not going to get into our life history but no ex-fiancee of mine is going to be doing this type of work. It took her by surprise and said I need this job, I said you don't need this job. Mike said wait I'll get your pay for the past 3 days , she had just started there on Saturday, I said listen mate, keep it since I'm putting you out not having an employee all of a sudden.

I'll make this short, I went for a walk with Julie, told her I am sorry for what i did, I don't want to get back together, I have a girlfriend, but I am not going to see her cleaning tables. I told her to go home, clean up get a shower whatever, I'll pick her up in 2 hours. At first she was all yelling telling me to butt out of her life I said this not about me looking to cheat on my girlfriend or have her on the side, this is from my heart I will take care of you until you get yourself a decent paying job.

We went for a drink all of 3 hours, she was not having any of my offers to support her, and then I talked her into it. I mean this I am only doing it to be a friend to a woman I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with who has suffered for my actions and infidelity.

I told her I'll give her whatever she was making at that place every month up front.I did exactly that today.

I know how this looks so don't be judgemental take it as I said it went down, how do I tell my girlfriend about the whole thing and what if she says fuck you and leaves me, I know I would react that way if she told me this whole thing.

Any news of this situation brotha?

I rented a one bedroom for her, taking care of the rent and expenses. I have not laid a finger on her or got in anyway romantic together. I have told her I will take care of her until she gets her thoughts together and finds a decent job and I meant it and mean it. No I have not said a word to my lady and that's how I intend to keep it. She will flip out and walk out on me because she will never understand what it is I am doing. I do not blame her if she jumps to the wrong conclusion but why give her the chance to go there.It is complicated I can see how it appears form the outside but I do not care, I am not cheating on my girlfriend, I am not hurting anyone except being the man I should have been to my ex in the first place.

You must always do what you feel is right,if this is what you think is right then go for it.